The reflective mind

I used to think that being hard on myself was the only way to improve. That if I wasn’t constantly pointing out my flaws, I’d never grow. But the truth? Self-criticism didn’t make me better—it made me smaller. It led to overthinking, self-sabotage, and this constant feeling that I wasn’t enough. The worst part? I didn’t even notice I was doing it. It became my default. A tiny mistake? “Ugh, why am I like this?” A missed opportunity? “Of course, I messed it up.” I was treating myself in a way I would never treat a friend. And the more I did it, the more I disconnected from who I really was. Because self-criticism isn’t just about negative thoughts—it’s the opposite of self-love, because you reject the beauty in yourself. It creates a version of yourself that feels unworthy, even when deep down, you’re not. So, how do we change this? Two things helped me: 1. Catch yourself and replace criticism with kindness The first step is awareness. Pay attention to those automatic harsh though...

Scrolling through social media, you come across a post that resonates deeply. Maybe it describes a pattern you recognize in yourself—self-sabotage, people-pleasing, or fear of intimacy. You nod in agreement, feeling seen and understood. But then what? Psychology posts can offer valuable insights, helping you reflect on your emotions, behaviors, and relationships. They might even give you the motivation to make a change. But insights alone don’t lead to transformation. Understanding why you do something is very different from knowing how to change it. This is where therapy makes all the difference. Unlike a one-size-fits-all post, therapy is a personalized journey. A professional doesn’t just confirm your patterns—they help you uncover the unconscious processes driving them.  Often, the root of a behavior isn’t what we assume it is. Why do you keep attracting the same kind of relationships? Why does self-doubt hold you back despite your achievements? Why do certain comments trigger ...